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What happens at the first meeting with a divorce lawyer?

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If you are having problems in your relationship and have decided that you need to seek legal advice from a divorce lawyer, it is likely you have never been in that situation before and that you have some concerns about what that meeting will involve. 

Here are the answers to some of the questions you may have:-

What information will I need to give my divorce lawyer?

You will need to bring lots of information with you when you meet your divorce lawyer.

You will be asked lots of questions about your relationship, including key dates such as when you married, started living together, both of your dates of birth and any children you have.

You will also need to provide as much detail as you can about the finances of you and your partner. Therefore, it will be really helpful if you have a good idea of the value of your home, the size of your (and your partner’s) mortgage, investments, savings, pension and income.

What should I take with me when I go to see a divorce lawyer?

If you are married and are thinking you want to start divorce proceedings, it would be a good idea to take your marriage certificate to the meeting. You might also like to take some questions you have thought of before the meeting that you want to discuss.

Can I take a friend or family member with me to meet a divorce lawyer?

Meeting a divorce lawyer for the first time can feel like a big step and, if it would help you, you are welcome to bring a trusted friend or relative along with you. It would not usually be advisable to bring your child to the meeting.

How long will a meeting with a divorce lawyer take?

It is likely to take between 1 and a half and 2 hours but this can vary, depending on the complexity of your case.

Will my divorce solicitor be able to give me advice at that first meeting?

It should be possible to give you advice at that initial consultation and deal with any immediate concerns you may have. More detailed advice can be given once it has been possible to gather any relevant information that isn’t available at that first meeting, for instance, if we need to seek financial information from your partner.

Will I be charged for the meeting?

Yes. At Birkett Long we have a range of lawyers with differing levels of experience so we can match your case to the right person. We are happy to provide you with a free 15 minute telephone consultation. During this conversation, we can discuss the likely costs involved for that first meeting and which lawyer might be best for you to see.

What happens after the meeting?

We will write to you detailing the advice given so you have a record that you can refer to whenever you wish.

What if I don’t want to take any steps after the first meeting?

That is absolutely fine. Many people just want to seek some preliminary advice and then have some space to think things through and decide if or when they want to take the next step. We will have your file ready to go, if or when you need our further help.


If you have any other questions about what the initial meeting with a divorce solicitor might involve, please contact our specialist divorce and separation lawyers for your free 15-minute telephone conversation.

I am based in our Colchester office and can be contacted on 01206 203867 or Alternatively, you can complete our online enquiry form.